Done? Good, because here was the money quote:
I was in elementary school when the educational ministers began preaching that fighting back against bullies was not to be tolerated. It was insisted that responsive violence only begat more violence and that the way to stop bullying was to “not respond” and to “demand the bully respect you,” or some horseshit like this.A great many of the problems with compulsory public schooling are structural. Along with the factory setting, replete with bells and gongs signifying the end and beginning of periods, the movement of "widgets" from station to station, and even "quality control" in the form of standardized testing, there is the whole Lord of the Flies-style social aspect that comes part and parcel with piling 25-odd mixed-sex (and increasingly, mixed-gendered) children into close quarters for 7 hours a day. In such an environment, how could it not be expected that some children would attempt to fill the classroom power vacuum and erect themselves atop the hierarchy?
These folks spent their entire adult careers allegedly studying the social behavior of young children and yet never realized that “Lord of the Flies” was a lot more than a fictional fantasy novella. They went about fighting bullying in exactly the wrong way – by criminalizing the physical aspects rather than disincentivizing the psychological aspects of bullying, they ensured the “negotiating” between bully and victim took place in the psychosocial realm where the bully had already secured an advantage, and imposed a moral equivalence that shamed victim for daring to fight back. The establishment seems to want to think of bullies as the fat stupid kid who has no other way than his fists to express himself (a la Moe from Calvin & Hobbes), however the bullies I dealt with had great social savvy and were able to bamboozle the teachers into believing they were the victim instead of me. Thus, any one-on-one verbal discussions that were supposed to “resolve conflict” were simply an extension of the bullying process [emphasis mine].
The frame I’ve come to believe in with regard to bullying is that, yes, a bully is trying to exploit a power differential, and that the faster you demonstrate strength to close the differential, the more quickly the bully will leave you alone and find someone else to victimize (if the demonstration of strength wasn’t enough to humiliate them entirely). Generally speaking, that means you’re going to have to get physical at the middle or high school level. Once you’ve shown you’re not going to be fucked with, the spell of dominance is broken and the bully no longer sees you as someone to victimize.
Of course, my proffered solution is to save one's child(ren) from this environment entirely and homeschool. Not only will their academic achievement be far better, but one's children won't suffer under the cruelty of other people's underparented and undersupervised offspring. Realizing that not all parents are able or willing to take this step for the benefit of their children, the next best thing would be for public school administrators to give up the nature-bucking equalitarian ideology, the one that instructs them to consider all children as tabulae rasa and that attempts to deny the true nature of humanity, and young humans in particular.
Of course, the odds of Cathedral teachers doing anything like what I suggest above approaches nil, leaving parents with only one true alternative...and that is to ensure one's children are less likely to encounter adult or child predators a government factory school by instructing them elsewhere.